Stress. Can’t live with it, can’t live without it. It’s an all-too-familiar feeling that’s as much a part of life as breathing and blinking. We’re pretty sure that we don’t have to tell you that stress can significantly impact your sex life. But we will anyway, Lubeology style (i.e., in way more detail than you probably care to know).
What is Stress?
In essence, stress is the body’s response to any demand for change. Our bodies are in constant flux with internal and external stressors, seeking a relative state of internal balance called homeostasis. Usually, we don’t even notice. But sometimes the change hits a threshold, whereas maintaining this condition requires more and more effort. The effects extend beyond the miniscule molecular happenings that keep our flesh machines running. An internal alarm system gets activated by these challenges or pressures, triggering the “fight or flight” system to take hold. This involves a surge of adrenaline and cortisol hormones, speeding up the heart rate, and redirecting energy to important muscles and functions to tackle the stressor. Unfortunately, the reproductive system doesn’t quite make the cut.
When the stressor is chronic, returning to the “normal” state becomes just a distant pipe dream for the nervous system. When the stressor is acute, and the nervous system is functioning at normal capacity, then you would expect your body to return to the state of “rest and digest” (and procreate). That’s the transition from sympathetic nervous system (SNS) dominance to parasympathetic nervous system (PNS) dominance. It’s an ancient biological system, refined through millennia of evolution!
The Science of the Stress-Lubrication Conundrum
So how does stress, whether chronic or acute, affect our ability to become properly aroused, and thus naturally lubricated? The body’s response to stress is a complex, highly individualized affair. Research suggests that while acute stress may transiently increase arousal in some cases, chronic stress tends to have a negative impact on sexual desire and arousal, largely due to its effects on hormonal balance and the psychological state. Here’s a basic overview of why this happens:
- Cortisol Capers: When stressed, our body releases cortisol, a hormone with a knack for throwing other hormones off balance, including those governing the enigmatic world of vaginal lubrication.
- Blood Flow Fiasco: Chronic stress can lead to a traffic jam in blood circulation, reducing the VIP (very important blood flow) to the genital area, essential for premium lubrication.
- Emotional Rollercoaster: Stress can dampen the fireworks of sexual arousal, thereby putting a damper on the body’s natural lube factory.
Stressing About Stress
Managing your stress is easier said than done. It often feels like controlling our stressors is out of our control. What a conundrum! It’s important that you do what you can—not only for your sexual health, but for the sake of your overall well-being. Research shows that, collectively, we are pretty stressed out:
According to the American Psychological Association (APA), stress levels in the United States have been significantly impacted by events such as the COVID-19 pandemic and political unrest. The APA’s “Stress in America” report for 2020 found that the majority of adults reported significant sources of stress including the future of the nation (81%), the coronavirus pandemic (80%), and political unrest (74%). Additionally, 66% of adults indicated that the breach of the U.S. Capitol was a significant source of stress
A follow up APA report (2023) highlighting the posttraumatic effects of the pandemic suggests that while life may appear more normal, many are still experiencing stress related to the collective trauma of recent years. Another important finding was that women continue to report higher stress levels than men, stating that they feel “stressed, misunderstood, and alone.”Â
And, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), mental health statistics in the United States indicate that:
- 12.5% of adults aged 18 and older report regular feelings of worry, nervousness, or anxiety.
- 5.0% of adults aged 18 and older report regular feelings of depression.
- There were 57.2 million visits to physician offices with mental disorders as the primary diagnosis in 2019.
- Emergency departments saw 5.8 million visits with mental disorders, behavioral, and neurodevelopmental disorders as the primary diagnosis in 2021.
- There were 48,183 suicide deaths in 2021, with a rate of 14.5 suicide deaths per 100,000 population.
In August 2022, more than 32% of US adults reported having symptoms of anxiety or depression within a two-week period. Check out the CDC’s Emotional Well-Being page for some insights on how to reduce stress in 10 minutes.
Less Stress, More Sex Please
Just like your body’s response to stressors is highly individualized and nuanced, effective strategies to reduce stress for YOU may differ. Although there isn’t much research directly linking your stress to your wetness levels, there’s lots of research on how to reduce stress levels. Here’s 10 clinically proven ways to manage stress, along with some resources that you may find helpful:
Mindfulness Meditation: Mindfulness-based stress reduction (MBSR) is a program that incorporates mindfulness meditation to alleviate stress and improve mental well-being. Studies have shown that MBSR can effectively reduce stress and anxiety.
Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT): CBT is a form of psychotherapy that helps individuals identify and change negative thought patterns and behaviors that contribute to stress. It has been proven effective in reducing stress and improving mental health.
Physical Exercise: Regular physical activity, such as walking, jogging, or yoga, can help reduce stress levels by releasing endorphins, which are natural mood elevators. Exercise has also been shown to improve sleep and reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression.
Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR): PMR involves tensing and then relaxing different muscle groups in the body. This technique can help reduce physical tension and promote relaxation, which in turn can help alleviate stress.
Deep Breathing Exercises: Deep breathing techniques, such as diaphragmatic breathing or the 4-7-8 method, can help activate the body’s relaxation response and reduce stress. These exercises are easy to learn and can be practiced anywhere.
Social Support: Having a strong social support network can provide emotional support and help individuals cope with stress. Engaging in social activities and maintaining close relationships with friends and family can be beneficial for stress reduction.Â
Adequate Sleep: Getting enough quality sleep is essential for managing stress. Poor sleep can exacerbate stress, while good sleep can help improve mood and reduce anxiety.
Go Outside:Â Research has shown that exposure to natural environments can lead to reductions in stress, anxiety, and depression. Nature walks, gardening, or simply sitting in a park can help lower cortisol levels (a stress hormone) and improve mood.
Have a Sexy Time: Together or alone. Even if you aren’t completely in the mood. Use some lubricant to get things started and stop if you feel it isn’t helping. Sexual activity can lead to the release of endorphins and other hormones, such as oxytocin, which can improve mood and reduce stress levels. Additionally, sexual activity can enhance intimacy and emotional connection with a partner, further contributing to stress reduction.
- Unplug and Slow Down: Taking breaks from digital devices, also known as a digital detox, can reduce stress and improve mental well-being. Studies have shown that excessive use of smartphones and social media can increase stress and anxiety.
Research Goes Where The Money Flows
We’ve said it before and we will say it again. Just because something is not scientifically verified with clinical trials, doesn’t mean it isn’t true or helpful. In fact, most stress studies are observational and based on individual perceptions and experiences. When it comes to what actually helps you, be your own scientist. Experiment with various stress-busting tactics and watch the magic unfold in your intimate health.